What does a healthy relationship look like?
In a healthy relationship, the other person will:
- Listen to you and take your feelings and ideas seriously.
- Talk openly and honestly with you about what matters to them.
- Never use threats of harm, violence or suicide to get their own way.
- Never hit, punch, kick, bite, slap, push or otherwise strike out in anger or jealousy.
- Not try to control what you do, where you go or who you talk to.
- Respect you, and say good things to you and about you.
- Enjoy spending time with you, and show it whether alone with you or in a group.
- Trust you, and earn your trust by keeping your confidences.
- Allow you to enjoy the activities and people that matter to you.
- Accept your limits about sexual activity, every time.
Sort out relationship issues before planning a pregnancy. Be sure about your relationship. Having a baby does not make a bad relationship better.
There are many forms of abuse within intimate relationships.
Abuse can be physical, verbal, emotional, financial or sexual. Some examples of abuse include being:
- Hit or kicked.
- Insulted or ridiculed.
- Controlled financially.
- Forced to have sex when you say no or don’t want to.
In an abusive relationship, the two partners are not equal. One dominates the other. Fear and the feeling of having to be cautious of one’s words or actions are common. Abuse may not happen all of the time.
Abuse often starts or gets worse during pregnancy.
Abuse can happen to anyone. It often starts during pregnancy. Abuse usually continues after the baby is born. It tends to get worse over time. Abuse can continue after a couple has separated. Abuse anytime is wrong.
Ask for help if you are being abused.
- Talk to your health care provider or someone you trust if you need help.
- There are services for people who are being abused. This help is confidential. These services will support you as you make decisions about your future.
- You may need legal help or information about how and where you can keep yourself and your baby or children safe. Your local Children’s Aid Society can help you look after the safety and well-being of your baby or children.
For more information:
- For emergencies call 911.
- Assaulted Women’s Helpline – 1-866-863-0511.
- Canadian Centre for Men and Families.
- Canadian Network of Women’s Shelters & Transition Houses.
- Ontario Association of Children’s Aid Societies – 1-800-718-1797.
- Ontario Network of Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Treatment Centres – 416-323-7327.
- Shelter Safe.
- Your health care provider.