You have certain strengths as a couple now. You can build on those.
Finish the following sentences:
Through this exercise you have had a chance to think about your own relationship. Sadly, it is common to discover a relationship that is destructive and abusive. But remember that your right to freedom from abuse is more valuable than a marriage or relationship that destroys you. Women should never be afraid to reach out for help. Don’t feel guilty, ashamed or blame yourself for a failing relationship. Now is the time to make important decisions for yourself and for the health of the baby you are dreaming about.
1. Do you find that your partner doesn’t want you to see other friends or participate in activities that do not include him/her?
2. Does your partner criticize the way you dress, talk, look?
3. Are there times when your partner’s teasing hurts your feelings?
4. Does your partner make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
5. Do you decide together what to do when together?
6. Do you ever feel pressured to do something?
7. Has your partner ever hit or slapped you?
8. Do you feel free to say “No” without having to explain your reasons?
9. Does your partner help you feel good about yourself?
If you answered yes to any questions but 5, 8 and 9 there are abusive elements to your relationship. Abuse often starts or gets worse during pregnancy. Talk to someone you trust.
FOR HELP CLOSE TO HOME CONTACT:
IF YOU ARE IN DANGER, CALL 911
Health care provider:
Sexual assault services:
Assaulted Women’s Help Line: 1-866-863-0511
Canada's Treatment Programs for Men Who Abuse Their Partners: